Honesty;is it overated?


                                                          HONESTY: IS IT OVERRATED?
To all those that believe honesty is the best policy, here is some food for thought.
I happen to be one of these people that believe in that theory but lately I find myself in some controversial situations and cannot seem to find a solution that will make everyone happy.
Yes I believe in telling the truth when your parents ask you where exactly you are at four in the morning, and I believe in telling the truth when somebody asks you how old you are, or where you live…
But what about the times when your boyfriend asks you if you like the perfume he bought you? Do you actually tell him you think it smells like insecticide and would rather go on a hunger strike than use it? Do you continue to tell him how, in fact, you are currently using it to reduce the number of bugs in your room? Or do you smile, kiss him sweetly on the cheek and say you love it. And what about your friend’s baby, do you smile and say “oh, he’s gorgeous” or do you tell her how he is a tad too dark-skinned and his head has got a weird shape and is a bit too big for his body? And what of that in-law you think does not deserve your sister? do you tell her how he is such a loser, is using her and she could do so much better when she tells you he had proposed and she said yes? Or do you smile and say you are happy for her? And what about your girlfriend who just got back from the saloon and has a particularly nauseating weave? Or this hideously colored dress your husband just bought you? Or a food-poisoning new recipe your mom is trying out…
Honesty is definitely great, but does this rule not have exceptions or limits just like the others?

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